Another disturbing call with my sister

First things first - let's talk about symptoms. I'm 11DPO - not a symptom to speak of. No sore bbs, my CP is low, none of that creamy CM, no twinges. I did get whacked with my standard PMS migraine today - I broke down and took my RX, and that didn't help. That's proof that this is my PMS headache; it's the only one that doesn't respond to meds. And I'm starving all the time. My two classic PMS symptoms. I'll be shocked to get a + on Monday. I even had two follies this time! Looks like we're moving to injectables...

Ok, now my sister. We hadn't spoken in a while, and I figured she didn't care about my TTC process. Bear in mind, my sister is true blue Mormon, but not as hateful and mean-tongued as my mom is. In fact, my sister even asked how the TTC stuff was coming along.

Here is how our conversation ensued. Warning: it's very offensive, so I apologize for my sister's lack of empathy.

Sis: "How's the baby stuff?"
Me: "Same old... (I continue to tell her how hard it's been, and that I'm gaining so much weight, emotionally it's hard, etc")
Sis: "When are you going to quit? I mean, you've spent so much money already. Are you going to just quit soon?"
Me: "I can't give up. I had polyps last year which prevented me, so it's like we're starting over again."
Sis: "IVF is expensive, would you do that?"
Me: "Well, if we have to."
Sis: "Why don't you just adopt?"
Me: "Well, I'd like to have my own child. If we can't it's an option we're considering."
Sis: "Can't you just get a US baby or a Russian baby?"
Me: "No, for gay couples we have limited options, even moreso than straight couples."
Sis: "Would your kid be white?"
Me: "No, most likely African American or Mexican."
>>>>>> SISTER LETS OUT A MAJOR GASP, LIKE SHE'S JUST SEEN THE BOOGEYMAN<<<<<<<
Sis: "!!!!!! OMG, you CANNOT get a black kid. Don't get a back kid!"
Me: "WTF... why? What's wrong with that?"
Sis: "HELLO, that kid would be so messed up. First, it'd be a black kid with WHITE parents. And even worse, their parents would be GAY? You can't do that to a kid, that kid would be totally messed up."

Ok, let's break this down. There are SO many things wrong with what she said. Apparently, she doesn't realize that many straight couples also adopt children of color. it's not just a gay thing. Furthermore, how sad that she thinks it's such an abomination, and abusive to a child's emotions - that a black kid should have white, gay parents.

Really, sis? Is this kid better off being carted from foster home to foster home? I know many gay couples who've adopted children of color, and all their families are BEAUTIFUL, healthy and happy.

She then said my mom is pissed at me for not returning her emails the last month. I briefly informed my sister that our mom donated $500 to Yes on 8. My sister voted yes, but didn't donate. She seemed mildly sympathetic, but then told me, "Well dont bring it up with mom. Just call her back and let her know how you're doing."

She doesn't realize that this was the last straw. How can i look my mom in the face, when she's told me she'll never be happy for me, that my wanting to start a family is a perversion, and that it's child abuse if we have kids, and the gay people just want dogs, not kids... and now she's dug deep into her poor retirement pockets to donate $500 to make my life more difficult?

But my mom is a pro at acting like nothing's wrong, she'll call me, email me, send me a valentine's day card. Everything ends with "Love ya!" How do you combat people that have NO clue how harassing and damaging their words are? Im tired of confronting my mom. Not worth my time, and anytime i confront her, it solidifies her beliefs even more. She gets more proud of her faith, and her actions.

I want a new family.